A Letter from one Mother in the NICU to Another Mother

As we approach Mother’s Day and you start to think about what a mother is, what your mother did for you and how you can make someone’s mother day special, this letter came to my mind shared by a fellow NICU( Neo Natal Intensive Care Unit) mother to another.  After going through this experience myself, I know how both mothers feel.


Dear New NICU Mom,

I recognized you the other day. You came out of the NICU, your husband right behind you. You walked slowly, like maybe you had a c-section last week, but you didn’t still look pregnant. You were both crying softly. You looked exhausted. I knew that look.

My baby and I had to meet someone in a NICU waiting area at our city’s children’s hospital for a research study. You saw us sitting there in the waiting area. You looked at me. I smiled a sad smile at you and you returned it.

What I wanted to say, what I tried to say in that sad smile, was this:

I know how it feels.

I was you eight months ago.

I have cried those quiet, uncontrollable tears – on a good day by NICU standards – as I put my tiny son back in his incubator after a kangaroo care session, carefully juggling wires and tubes, nestled him in, put a fleece blanket over the box to keep the light out. Watched the monitor to make sure the numbers indicated that he was comfortable before I left. I, too, hesitated before I smoothed the last corner down, peeked through the plexiglass and choked up as I whispered – goodnight, my baby, I love you, I will see you soon.

I have walked that slow, heart-wrenching walk, away from my sweet tiny baby. Pain in my abdomen, where a baby should still be, halting my steps. Crying, not sure if I’m embarrassed for a stranger in the hospital to see my tears, or if maybe crying in a hospital is what people expect, or if I don’t even care.

I am so sorry I am here with my healthy infant, confronting you right here as you leave your baby behind for now.

My gargantuan baby (to you anyway, I know) weighs 15 pounds and 10 ounces today. Five times his birth weight exactly. He is healthy and normal for his adjusted age. No more oxygen, no more wires, no medications. He didn’t even go to the doctor at all in April. I know he looks like a freak of nature to you. Sometimes even I can’t believe this is the same baby who could curl up into a little ball under my cupped hands. That I watched with delight and thanksgiving as his stick-like limbs got chunkier and his little belly became roly-poly and his eyes went from murky blue-gray to clear blue and his ears grew cartilage that makes them stick out.

Your little baby is perfect. How big is your baby? I want to ask. Actual and adjusted age? How is she doing today? Were you able to hold her?

When I smile at you, holding this giant baby, I want to tell you that I hope with all my heart that your baby will be fine too. That the fear slows down as time passes. And if your baby does need oxygen, wheelchairs, braces, monitors, tubes, I want to tell you that a gift of the NICU is that now I can look past the medical devices. If that is what your child needs, when I see you in public in a year or two, I will see your beautiful child, not his equipment.

New NICU mom, in the glance we shared, I just wanted you to know that I’ve been there. This healthy baby on my lap has been where your baby is. We know how much it hurts. It’s okay that you’re crying, NICU mom. Your journey is hard. Sometimes you have to cry. Let me share your burden for a moment. I know how to carry it.


A recent NICU mom

This letter just brings tears to your eyes.  This is what A Story of Faith is trying to do for NICU moms and dads and the healthcare workers that day in and day out take care of that precious bundle of joy. On September 13, 2014, 27 Miracles is hosting an event called The Gift of Life to benefit Florida Hospital  Walt Disney Children’s Pavillion, The NICU department and the making of the Movie A Story of Faith.  Your attendance and donation to this event will help many parents going through this pain and healthcare workers feeling the stress without their own support to receive this message of hope.  It will help the NICU receive new equipment that will continue to save lives daily.

Please visit our event website to purchase your ticket today and if you cannot attend, please consider a donation to the event, every little bit helps.


Donations: http://www.astoryoffaith.com/#!donations/c1vud

An Interview with Rosie Moore of 27 Miracles

In today’s Market everyone has a choice as to who they will hire to coordinate, plan and execute their wedding or event.  Rosie Moore of 27 Miracles knows this first hand.  Through the years Rosie has compiled some of the best asked questions by brides before hiring her.  Rosie recommends that before hiring her services that every bride/client read through this.


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Client: How long have you been doing wedding and event planning?

Rosie: I have been planning weddings and events ever since I was 18 yrs old off and on, however in 2008, I decided that I wanted to open 27 Miracles and have my own full service wedding company.

Client: We love your wedding services after reviewing your website and your testimonials.  What sets you apart from other wedding and event planners?

Rosie: I am a certified wedding and event planner with not only the book knowledge but the experience needed to do weddings and events of all sizes.  I have a passion for doing weddings and will give my 150% to the wedding/event.  When you hire Rosie of 27 Miracles you are hiring your best friend that will be honest with you, help you get through anything and most of all be professional to always make the bride and groom/client look great and have an experience that they will never forget on their wedding/event day.

Client: Wow, it sounds wonderful all that you do, will we be able to afford you?

Rosie: Absolutely, the investment that you make hiring my services will repay itself in services rendered and there are monies to be saved that otherwise would not be saved with my contract negotiation skills and extensive relationships in the industry.

Client: Who do you work best with?

Rosie: I work best with all types of brides/clients,  but particularly the brides/clients that work with us are the ones that are too busy to go to the appointments and do the research.  So they have us do all the legwork and on the day of the wedding/event everything flows smoothly

Client: Who will benefit from your services?

Rosie: The bride/client that is looking to have a wedding/event that will leave guests talking and remembering the day.  The bride/client that wants to enjoy the day and not stress over the details.

Client: Will I lose control if you are planning the wedding/event?

Rosie: You will not lose control of the wedding/event.  As a matter of fact no decision is made by the planner without coordinating with the bride/client. It is a team effort!

Client: Will you work with the vendors I have already selected?

Rosie: I will work with the vendors that you have selected.  I take the time to introduce myself to your vendors and work as a team on the day of the wedding/event.

Client: Do you take credit cards?

Rosie: Yes we take credit cards.  We accept Master Card, Visa and American Express and offer Pay Pal

Client: Do you have a payment plan?

Rosie: Yes we do have a payment plan for those that need it.

Client: Do you have liability insurance?

Rosie: Yes we carry liability insurance, as most event locations require this.

Client: Do you take more than one wedding/event per day?

Rosie: I only take one wedding/event personally per day.  27 Miracles may have more than one wedding/event per day occurring, however those weddings/events will be assigned to another planner on our team.

Client: This sounds like everything that we are looking for, what do we do now to sign up with you?

Rosie: You can contact me at 407-905-5454 or email me at info@27miraclesbyrosie.com to schedule a time to sign your contract

Client: May we contact some of your past clients?

Rosie: You can certainly contact our past clients.  In the meantime see the various links to testimonials here.  http://www.27miraclesbyrosie.com/about/testimonials.php




Client: We have a few more questions before we get started, can I call you?

Rosie: Yes, call me at 407-905-5454 or email me at info@27miraclesbyrosie.com to schedule your complimentary meet and greet consultation

No You Can’t Pick My Brain/ Article Found In Forbes Magazine

Sometimes a good article comes along that you just have to share  with clients or event professionals.  This one actually comes in handy for both as read in Forbes Magazine. 27 Miracles writes many blogs and shares a lot of good information with the general public to help out with google searchers.  We offer a  free initial consultaion for inquiring clients-to-be.  If you are getting married or planning an event, feel free to give us a call at 407-905-5454 for your free initial consultation. Visit us on our webpage www.27miraclesbyrosie.com or email us at info@27miraclesbyrosie.com

Happy Reading!!!

Work in Progress 


No, You Can’t Pick My Brain. It Costs Too Much

Adrienne Graham Adrienne Graham, Contributor
I love giving advice. I write blogs, articles and a newsletter. I host a radio show. I tweet, Facebook and share nuggets of advice almost daily. So what is it in all of that, that would make anyone think they can still have the right to “pick my brain”?

I can’t tell you how flattering it is to be approached by representatives from major companies seeking my wisdom and advice. It show they are listening and like what I have to say.

But often I find the road ends when they are just on a fact finding mission. That mission is to pick my brain to gather as much free intel and knowledge they need to make their jobs easier.

Not gonna happen, sorry. My brain costs money to maintain. There’s training, classes to attend, reading (I have to buy books), gaining certifications, costs of memberships so I can network, attending conferences and mastering my skills that all cost me money.

I have to protect my investment. How fair is it to me to give away all the knowledge I have acquired that I use to make my living, pay my bills and eat?

Now, don’t get offended. If you do, maybe you deserve to be offended because you’re one of those aforementioned brain pickers.

There have been many articles written and discussions formed around this very subject. With the Internet being so widely available loaded with free information, people automatically assume that you too have to provide information for free.

My response to that is go ahead and read the free stuff. But when you still find yourself lacking answers, then apparently the FREE stuff doesn’t work. You can’t come to a professional and ask them to work for free. In essence, that is what you’re doing when you ask to pick someone’s brain.

How would you feel if your boss came to you and said, Hey since we can get this done from information from the Internet, I won’t be paying you today. Go ahead, let it sink in. Got that visual yet? Good. That’s exactly how I feel whenever someone wants to take me to lunch or call me to pick my brain.

If you’re like (how I used to be) you’ve given away tons of valuable information. I never once minded helping people out. It’s the ones who keep coming back for more freebies and those who take my ideas, implement them, find success, then never offer to repay me for my time.

And no, a turkey sandwich is not payment for something that helped you overcome an obstacle and either created value or additional revenue for your company. I charge my paying clients very good money for my expertise and results. How would they feel to know that I’m giving out free advice? Not too swell I would imagine. In fact I hope they don’t call me demanding refunds!

The most prevalent question I get is how do you draw the line? Deciding the point where you begin to charge is tough, especially if you’re just starting out.

But your knowledge has value. You’ve invested time and money into learning your craft and it’s not fair for people to expect you to give it away for free. Even friends need to understand there are boundaries.

For example I will no longer advise my friends or family for free. (Wow, I just made some people mad….they’ll get over it!). I have businesses to run, employees to pay, mortgage to pay, office rent to pay, college tuition, etc, etc, etc.

I’ve told this to friends who have promptly replied, “Me too, you know I don’t have much money”. SO WHAT. That means you either have to delay your plans or come up with the money to fund your dreams. Period. Giving away information is the quickest way to end up evicted or foreclosed on. Put that in proper perspective for a moment.

If you’re having problem drawing the line in the sand, here are some rules of thumb you should follow:

  • Believe that what you know is valuable. If it wasn’t then why are they coming to you? You’re their chance to solve a problem or find a solution. That has value. Charge for it.
  • Create a fee schedule. Whenever someone wants to pick your brain, make sure you have your fee schedule in front of you. Give them a quote for how much it will cost them. They’ll either pay it or move on. If they move on, good riddance. They weren’t interested in paying you anyway. Let them figure it out on their own.
  • Decline lunch/coffee invitations unless they are strictly non-business. If the conversation swings around to business, quickly and politely tell them you’re off the clock. If they are interested in a consult they can book an appointment and let them know what the charge is for that.
  • Keep it light. Some of you will probably cave and throw a few nuggets out there. If you do (I hope you don’t), keep it general. Give the why and what but never the how. Anything beyond the why and what comes with a charge. And don’t even point them in the direction to obtain the how. That’s short changing yourself.
  • Prominently post that there are no freebies. OK not in those words. But if you have a blog or website, and even on your social media profiles, make sure you mention that consultations are available at a fee.
  • Exchange for equal value. This puts you in an advantageous bargaining position. If someone requests free information or help, you must feel comfortable in asking for an in kind value service. Assess what they have that can be of equal benefit for you. If they are genuine, they should have no problem in an even exchange of knowledge. Only you will know if what they have is equal to what you’re giving.
  • Refer them to your “free” resources. If you write a blog, have published articles, have archived videos or podcasts or have a show in which you dispense advice, refer them to that information. Explain that those are the only free information sources you offer. Anything specific or beyond what’s readily available has a cost.
  • Don’t be afraid to send them to Google. You can recommend they go to Google, or any other search engine or to sites that have articles or information about what they need advice on. You can also recommend a book or magazine that might be helpful. Let them expend that energy they would have used in meeting you at Starbucks and hit the search engines to find their answers. Problem is, they’ll be overwhelmed with varying degrees of information. Not fun for them, but when they’re ready to put it in proper perspective and implement, they can come to you…for a consult…a paid consult.
  • Ask them for a paying referral. If they truly want your expertise, they have to be willing to help you out too. It’s kind of like the Equal Exchange point I made above crossed with paying it forward. Before you dispense any advice, ask them to provide you with referrals to others who most certainly need (and can afford) your service.
  • Don’t back down. I know it’s hard to say “no” sometimes. But you can’t back down. People will know how far they can bend or push you. Stand firm, set your boundaries and guard your treasures (your brain and the know how in it). The minute you compromise you devalue yourself and your expertise.

Most people are afraid to draw the hard lines in the sand for fear of angering a friend or losing a potential client or opportunity. Trust me, if they will walk away because they cannot get a freebie, they weren’t meant to be a client and there was no real opportunity in it for you.

Many in the marketing circles will tell you the freebie give away is vital. But it doesn’t always lead to a sale. Likewise giving away what you would do in a given situation during an interview will not necessarily lead to you being hired. It’s up to you to determine what you’re willing to give away and how much of it. Know your worth, understand your value. Stop being taken advantage of. No more freebies.

Til next time.

Adrienne Graham
No, you can’t pick my brain!

Client Appreciation Event at Ramada Gateway

Client Appreciation Event

By Ramada Gateway Hotel

27 Miracles and Ramada Gateway Hotel

Kindly Invite you to our

Client Appreciation Event 

Take the opportunity to learn everything the Ramada Gateway Hotel has to offer and meet with  various vendors for your event! 

Feel free to bring someone with you! 

Join us on

Thursday, November 17, 2011
5pm -7pm
7470 Hwy 192 West
Kissimmee, FL 34747

Complimentary Hors d’oeuvres and Drinks

Please reply by November 10, 2011