An Old Ritual With a New Spin

While the most seemingly bizarre wedding traditions actually can make for the most unique wedding experiences, you don’t have to faithfully recreate the original rituals as they were once performed. If you’d like to try putting a modern spin on an old wedding tradition, check out this fun adaptation of long-observed Chinese ritual.

“Zuo Tang” or “Sitting in the Hall,” from the Sichuan Province in Southwest China
Nearly a thousand years ago, the mother of a Chinese princess was so devastated that her baby girl was promised to a man she disliked she spent an entire month weeping in despair. Chinese mothers everywhere thought this was a fabulous way to express motherly love, and thus the Zuo Tang weeping tradition was born. As the tradition evolved, the brides became the ones expected to weep, and so the ritual began a month before the wedding day. Ten days into the weeping month, the bride’s mother would begin weeping with her daughter. As the days went on, the other female members of her family would join in the tears, until every female relative of the bride was weeping together. Brides who didn’t weep enough were often shunned or beaten by their mothers because the harder, longer and more often a bride cried, the more she was thought to love her family.

Round up all of your female relatives a week or two before your wedding day to have a “crying” themed karaoke night.
In all fairness to modern Sichuan brides, recently the Zuo Tang tradition is upheld by simply singing “crying marriage songs” in lieu of month-long weeping. You can take it one step further. Gather all your female relatives sometime in the month before your wedding day and take them out for a night on the town. Hit up a karaoke bar for some singing and dancing. If you really want to get in the sobbing spirit, theme the music choices according to song titles and lyrics about crying or weeping.

Try This “Wailing” Playlist:
“Cry Me a River” by Justin Timberlake
“Cry to Me” by Solomon Burke
“Don’t Cry Out” by Shiny Toy Guns
“Big Girls Don’t Cry” by Frankie Valli & the Four Seasons
“Cry” by Siouxsie & the Banshees
“Can’t Cry These Tears” by Garbage
“Boys Don’t Cry” by the Cure
“Don’t Cry Baby” by Madeleine Peyroux
“Crybaby” by Janis Joplin


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“Make a Joyful Noise”

“Grab some friends and go caroling.  Or just pipe up in the privacy of yrou own home.  Studies show the forceful exhalations that come with singing, help protect the upper respiratory system from infection. And besides singing just feels good.” Better Homes and Garden

“Tis the season to be jolly, fa, la, la, la, la , la, la, la.  There is something to be said about baking, cooking, doing laundry and being with family with the Christmas music playing in the background.  It disconnects you for the media news where there is so much talk about crime, putting a damper on the Christmas season.  Or sad stories of the economy and how poorly we are doing because of our government spending.  At least in our own corner of the world, we can grab our loved ones, sing with them or even when you are alone thinking of them and thank God daily for all that we have.

Today, take a moment to play some Christmas music and sing along with the track and enjoy the moment!

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Merry Christmas!!! One of my favorite songs!!! The American Boychoir Singing Carol of the Bells

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“Dig Out The Holiday CD’s”

“The holidays are stressful.  If you are tempted to knock a partridge out of a pear tree, turn on some music.  Your whole system begins to slow down when you listen to familiar soothing music.”  Suzanne Hanser, chairwoman of Berklee College of Music’s Music Therapy Department in Boston.

Funny, as I was sitting here writing this blog, what song should come on?  But of course the 12 days of Christmas.  I had a good chuckle.  Now I am listening to my favorite ballet, the Nutcracker, after years of dancing it and watching it, I never grow tired of it.  I have a lot of work to do at my desk, but listening to the Christmas music took me back to many memories and it uplifts your mood.

Christmas is only here for a season, enjoy the music as you shop, sing Christmas songs even if you are off-key with your kids, with your spouse or spouse to be and make memories!

Of course Kaleb’s favorite song to sing is Jingle Bells, he has the two dogs as captive audience!

20 days left until Christmas!! Wow with weddings in-between will I be ready?? I better get some of Santa’s elves over to help!

Merry Christmas!!

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